The divorce rate among Navy SEALs is over 90 percent, and the rate among severely wounded warriors is even higher. Erica and Jason Redman knew their marriage faced an uphill climb, because Jason is both.

In 2007, Jason’s patrol was ambushed by a machine gunners’ nest in Iraq. Thirty-seven surgeries, 1,200 stitches, and a grueling years-long rehab would follow. Despite all that—plus the daily demands of raising three children and running a successful business together—Jason and Erica’s marriage has remained invincible.

Every day, you make choices that either build up your relationship or leave it exposed and vulnerable to attack. The highest-performing warrior teams pay attention to developing muscle-memory habits, and your marriage can benefit from the same focus.

In The Invincible Marriage, Jason and Erica share the tools they use to lay the foundational beliefs and communication skills a marriage needs to last for life. Each chapter helps readers develop a key tenet of successful relationship-building. Among them:

• Commit to Friendship: The foundation of all successful marriages is genuine friendship
• Support Each Other’s Dreams: Couples who establish a pattern of supporting each other’s dreams can thrive even when those dreams grow and change
• Know When to Give Space: Learn to trust each other enough to give and take space when needed instead of resorting to passive-aggressive responses and stonewalling
• Establish Rituals: Couples can strengthen their marriage by finding ways to invest in small shared actions that reflect and reinforce commitment
• Face Conflict Together: Marital strength is not the absence of conflict but the ability to withstand and work through conflict

Drawing on their own experiences and the latest research in long-term interpersonal relationships, The Invincible Marriage is a battle-tested guide to nurturing love, especially when the going gets tough.